I normally hate making blanket statements, but do you know what 30-something females DON’T miss??
The Michael Jackson crotch grab.
You know, the one where a guy puts his hand over his pants crotch, cupping what is most likely a micro-penis??
…It’s not a good look.
I’m sorry that I’m making you remember MJ’s douche dance move, but that’s what a 50-something year-old guy did to me last week, when I was hosting bar trivia.
And there was no music playing.
Paul, a complete stranger, had been bothering me while I hosted bar trivia for about a month.
He was always at the bar by himself—a creepy sign—and he kept trying to start conversation with me while I was speaking into a microphone or trying to sort through and log teams’ answers on my laptop.
Week after week, he thought it was OK to come up to me and personally tell me the answers to the questions I asked, engaging me in conversation.
And week after week, I threw a pad of paper and pencil at him and said, “If you want to play, you’re going to have to write down your answer on a piece of paper. You can’t just tell me what you think the answer is.”
It took him a few weeks to finally tell me that he “liked me” excusing the fact that he was 20 years older than I was, at least, and excusing the fact that I told him I have a boyfriend, ThankYouVeryMuch.
But Paul continued to bother me and run up to my table every time I asked a question to whisper the answer in my ear.
But last week, he graduated to Michael Jackson CREEP.
The question I asked was, “what body part do you examine if you use an 'otoscope?'”
Answer: The ear.
Paul, who was outside on the patio at the time, came running back into the bar, a man on a mission.
“I know I know!!!!” he said to me, as usual. Then he suddenly grabbed his crotch, four feet from where I was sitting.
“YOU EXAMINE THIS!” he said, laughing.
I believe my face contorted into the look of someone who was hungover and about to puke, and who had just smelled rotten eggs.
I hated that he made me look at his crotch.
What kind of man are you to have to trick a woman into paying attention to that part of your body????
Oh and P.S. I could have had him arrested, I'm sure.
I stopped speaking to him instead, complete cold shoulder that I learned from a police officer in fifth grade as a tactic to ignore someone who would offer you drugs, as he stood there next to my table and chair.
“The correct answer is…EAR,” I said slowly and loudly on the microphone to the 50 or so people playing bar trivia.
Then, I added, “NOT YOUR DICK, PAUL.”
And then I stared at him with my rotten egg smell face as the room got silent and he turned red and got embarrassed.
…And that’s how I got rid of Paul.